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Post  Dokiix on Tue Aug 23, 2011 6:58 pm

I got a problem.

My Mom wants to file a divorce with my Dad over a simple misunderstanding.

Apparently because my Dad said "I miss you very much" to a woman, who he knew since childhood, over facebook.

I feel like I'm going to fall apart, because I don't want my parents to divorce. I really don't, and definitely not over a simple misunderstanding.
My Mom has claimed to tell him not to do it, but I'm not sure...

I've talked to my Mom about this, and I've told her she was overreacting, because I could obviously see it was a chat between two childhood/close friends.

I think she is really going to file a divorce too...

I don't know what to do anymore...I just wanna break down and just cry...I'm scared...I don't want them to separate...
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Post  Learn your ABC's with S7 on Tue Aug 23, 2011 8:47 pm

Even as I type this my parents are fighting.

My mom feels that my dad sees her as an object, and has never recognized her as a human being. He used to get very mad with her in the past. Now, it's the other way around. She has sudden outbursts, without warning, about the most miniscule of things. I think she relies too heavily on her feelings, her moral compass is corrupted. Me and my dad base our judgements and actions more or less on pure logic, so you can understand why we might have immense difficulty understanding her reasoning and tolerating her. These aren't normal fights. She starts them constantly, and when I'm residing at home I'm burdened with the overwhelming anticipation of when she'll lose her mind again. Today she started hitting my dad with objects. A few weeks ago she tore open bags and started pummeling the hallway with books, and I thought she was literally insane. I'm not even sure if 'tantrum' comes close to describing it. She sees a counsellor but it's only made her worse. I was gonna watch a movie with a friend tonight but had to call it off. My living room is a battleground.
What pisses both of us off the most is that she justifies her violence by stating she had no choice. She even says she tries to forget about these episodes because it's more convenient that way. Then I learned he used to beat her up just tonight.
This probably isn't much help, but I feel for you. You're not alone, I promise.

I know it's immoral, but sometimes I wish they'd divorce.

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Post  SFB2031 on Tue Aug 23, 2011 10:35 pm

Try talking to your mom about if she had a childhood friend who happened to be a boy, and just met him again over facebook. how would she feel if your dad suddenly called "foul-play" and requested a divorce. its a simple misunderstanding. nothing more, nothing less. if that doesnt work, try to explain how devastated you would be if they got divorced. that might work.
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Post  Mega Bear on Wed Aug 24, 2011 1:44 am

Sit your mom down and explain whathhappened to her, but before that ask her what she feels is going on so you can tell her about it more in-depthly.

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Post  Dokiix on Wed Aug 24, 2011 6:07 am

@S7: Thanks for your support.

@SFB2031: I've already tried that. :c

@Mega Bear: I've done that already. She says she hates my father.... D; She's been like this for awhile, and it's probably her menopause that's causing her to freak out so much. Anyways, I've tried. It's like she's not even listening to me.
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Post  Gothboy77 on Wed Aug 24, 2011 6:36 am

My parents split when I was 4

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Post  Learn your ABC's with S7 on Wed Aug 24, 2011 7:51 am

Gothboy77 wrote:My parents split when I was 4
My parents fought since I first came into existence.

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Post  Dokiix on Wed Aug 24, 2011 8:32 am

S7 wrote:
Gothboy77 wrote:My parents split when I was 4
My parents fought since I first came into existence.
I love both of my parents very much...
But the problem has been solved. x3
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Post  Cookieman on Wed Aug 24, 2011 8:50 am

Shall this topic be turned into the sharing of pain that is caused from loves ones fighting?
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Post  Amaya on Wed Aug 24, 2011 9:11 am

I'm sorry about whats happening to you kid. My parents fought alot after I was born because my dad was a "true blood gangster" so he thought he was too cool for a kid. He wanted a son, si after months they had my brother, Matt when I was 5. We didn't eat much because my dad would be out drinking and spendin money on vodka. I shot my dad in the arm after the incident he did to me. My parents started fighting and it ended up going on a trip down to the beach by our old house. My dad of course, was drinking and slapping my mother. We crashed on the freeway off the rails, and into a tree. Thats when they died, and me and my brother survived but not my parents. I grew up takin care of my brother at my aunts house. If it helps, near friday if you have steam we could chat to make you feel better. If they dont divorce, then they are going to hold in hate and hate as it builds up until a day your parents go crazy. Trus me, once their divorced it will all be over with.
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Post  Dokiix on Wed Aug 24, 2011 9:27 am

Amaya wrote:I'm sorry about whats happening to you kid. My parents fought alot after I was born because my dad was a "true blood gangster" so he thought he was too cool for a kid. He wanted a son, si after months they had my brother, Matt when I was 5. We didn't eat much because my dad would be out drinking and spendin money on vodka. I shot my dad in the arm after the incident he did to me. My parents started fighting and it ended up going on a trip down to the beach by our old house. My dad of course, was drinking and slapping my mother. We crashed on the freeway off the rails, and into a tree. Thats when they died, and me and my brother survived but not my parents. I grew up takin care of my brother at my aunts house. If it helps, near friday if you have steam we could chat to make you feel better. If they dont divorce, then they are going to hold in hate and hate as it builds up until a day your parents go crazy. Trus me, once their divorced it will all be over with.
.....No offense but I have a hard time believing ANY of this. D;
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Post  Cookieman on Wed Aug 24, 2011 9:58 am

Dokiix wrote:
Amaya wrote:I'm sorry about whats happening to you kid. My parents fought alot after I was born because my dad was a "true blood gangster" so he thought he was too cool for a kid. He wanted a son, si after months they had my brother, Matt when I was 5. We didn't eat much because my dad would be out drinking and spendin money on vodka. I shot my dad in the arm after the incident he did to me. My parents started fighting and it ended up going on a trip down to the beach by our old house. My dad of course, was drinking and slapping my mother. We crashed on the freeway off the rails, and into a tree. Thats when they died, and me and my brother survived but not my parents. I grew up takin care of my brother at my aunts house. If it helps, near friday if you have steam we could chat to make you feel better. If they dont divorce, then they are going to hold in hate and hate as it builds up until a day your parents go crazy. Trus me, once their divorced it will all be over with.
.....No offense but I have a hard time believing ANY of this. D;
Same... sorry Amaya.
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Post  Learn your ABC's with S7 on Wed Aug 24, 2011 1:33 pm

Cookieman wrote:
Dokiix wrote:
Amaya wrote:I'm sorry about whats happening to you kid. My parents fought alot after I was born because my dad was a "true blood gangster" so he thought he was too cool for a kid. He wanted a son, si after months they had my brother, Matt when I was 5. We didn't eat much because my dad would be out drinking and spendin money on vodka. I shot my dad in the arm after the incident he did to me. My parents started fighting and it ended up going on a trip down to the beach by our old house. My dad of course, was drinking and slapping my mother. We crashed on the freeway off the rails, and into a tree. Thats when they died, and me and my brother survived but not my parents. I grew up takin care of my brother at my aunts house. If it helps, near friday if you have steam we could chat to make you feel better. If they dont divorce, then they are going to hold in hate and hate as it builds up until a day your parents go crazy. Trus me, once their divorced it will all be over with.
.....No offense but I have a hard time believing ANY of this. D;
Same... sorry Amaya.
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Post  Mega Bear on Wed Aug 24, 2011 5:05 pm

Dokiix wrote:.....No offense but I have a hard time believing ANY of this. D;
Nobody really believes Amaya. troll

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Post  Moonblazer21 on Thu Aug 25, 2011 3:32 am

death do us part is such bullshit

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Post  Cookieman on Thu Aug 25, 2011 6:39 am

Moonblazer21 wrote:death do us part is such bullshit
Everybody divorces all the time..
The lines mean nothing to the public anymore, do they not?
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Post  Raven on Fri Aug 26, 2011 3:26 am

Dokiix wrote:I got a problem.

My Mom wants to file a divorce with my Dad over a simple misunderstanding.

Apparently because my Dad said "I miss you very much" to a woman, who he knew since childhood, over facebook.

I feel like I'm going to fall apart, because I don't want my parents to divorce. I really don't, and definitely not over a simple misunderstanding.
My Mom has claimed to tell him not to do it, but I'm not sure...

I've talked to my Mom about this, and I've told her she was overreacting, because I could obviously see it was a chat between two childhood/close friends.

I think she is really going to file a divorce too...

I don't know what to do anymore...I just wanna break down and just cry...I'm scared...I don't want them to separate...

I think you should explain to them both about how you feel. but if it happens. i'm sure you will be able to visit your father alot. sorry to hear about this.
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Post  Raven on Fri Aug 26, 2011 3:28 am

S7 wrote:
Cookieman wrote:
Dokiix wrote:
Amaya wrote:I'm sorry about whats happening to you kid. My parents fought alot after I was born because my dad was a "true blood gangster" so he thought he was too cool for a kid. He wanted a son, si after months they had my brother, Matt when I was 5. We didn't eat much because my dad would be out drinking and spendin money on vodka. I shot my dad in the arm after the incident he did to me. My parents started fighting and it ended up going on a trip down to the beach by our old house. My dad of course, was drinking and slapping my mother. We crashed on the freeway off the rails, and into a tree. Thats when they died, and me and my brother survived but not my parents. I grew up takin care of my brother at my aunts house. If it helps, near friday if you have steam we could chat to make you feel better. If they dont divorce, then they are going to hold in hate and hate as it builds up until a day your parents go crazy. Trus me, once their divorced it will all be over with.
.....No offense but I have a hard time believing ANY of this. D;
Same... sorry Amaya.
Where'd you get a gun?

Err. whites are not Bloods, or cripz... If you would have just told us, he's a "Hardcore wigger."
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Post  Guest on Fri Aug 26, 2011 3:34 am

Dokiix wrote:the problem has been solved. x3

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Post  Amaya on Fri Aug 26, 2011 11:32 am

Dokiix wrote:
Amaya wrote:I'm sorry about whats happening to you kid. My parents fought alot after I was born because my dad was a "true blood gangster" so he thought he was too cool for a kid. He wanted a son, si after months they had my brother, Matt when I was 5. We didn't eat much because my dad would be out drinking and spendin money on vodka. I shot my dad in the arm after the incident he did to me. My parents started fighting and it ended up going on a trip down to the beach by our old house. My dad of course, was drinking and slapping my mother. We crashed on the freeway off the rails, and into a tree. Thats when they died, and me and my brother survived but not my parents. I grew up takin care of my brother at my aunts house. If it helps, near friday if you have steam we could chat to make you feel better. If they dont divorce, then they are going to hold in hate and hate as it builds up until a day your parents go crazy. Trus me, once their divorced it will all be over with.
.....No offense but I have a hard time believing ANY of this. D;

derp.
you should know that I am very trusted by a lot of people. lol.
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Post  Darksnow on Fri Aug 26, 2011 11:40 am

You're not alone. My father was just like this, and now he's dead for his mistakes.
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Post  Learn your ABC's with S7 on Fri Aug 26, 2011 1:05 pm

Amaya wrote:
Dokiix wrote:
Amaya wrote:I'm sorry about whats happening to you kid. My parents fought alot after I was born because my dad was a "true blood gangster" so he thought he was too cool for a kid. He wanted a son, si after months they had my brother, Matt when I was 5. We didn't eat much because my dad would be out drinking and spendin money on vodka. I shot my dad in the arm after the incident he did to me. My parents started fighting and it ended up going on a trip down to the beach by our old house. My dad of course, was drinking and slapping my mother. We crashed on the freeway off the rails, and into a tree. Thats when they died, and me and my brother survived but not my parents. I grew up takin care of my brother at my aunts house. If it helps, near friday if you have steam we could chat to make you feel better. If they dont divorce, then they are going to hold in hate and hate as it builds up until a day your parents go crazy. Trus me, once their divorced it will all be over with.
.....No offense but I have a hard time believing ANY of this. D;

derp.
you should know that I am very trusted by a lot of people. lol.

Exactly.

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Post  Gothboy77 on Sat Aug 27, 2011 12:47 am

Locked due to solvment

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